The majority of people think that money is a one way ticket to happiness. If only I was rich then I could truly be happy. I could buy the fast cars, big houses, luxury holidays, have a beautiful spouse. This sounds all too familiar to the majority of us. So if money isn’t the answer to happiness then what is?
1. Do What You Love
The majority of us are in a job that we don’t like. My philosophy when it comes to work is, if you don’t wake up in the morning feeling at least a little bit enthusiastic then you should strive to find your perfect job.
Most of us have a normal 9-5, 8 hour working day. That is half of our day (excluding sleep of course) and the majority of our life not being satisfied in what we do.
2. Accept Your Current Circumstances
If we learn to truly accept what we have in our lives then we will be happier. The Buddha said that desire is at the root of all suffering. This makes sense. If we are always searching for the next thing that we think will make us happy then we will never learn to appreciate and love the things we already have.
Take a few moments each day to really be grateful for whatever you may have even if you think you do not have much. Things could always be worse. The cliché you don’t realise what you have until it has gone hold true.
3. Focus on the Now
The present moment is the only time that really exists. What is the point of thinking about something that happened in the past? It has already happened and nothing you do can change that. You can’t go back into the past and do something differently, thinking that you can will only create despair in your life.
Don’t beat yourself up over whatever regrets you may have or whatever happened. The same holds true for the future. The future has not come yet and in actual fact it will never come.
The present moment is the only time that exists. If you truly grasp and live by this concept then everything will suddenly appear perfect and you will live a much happier life. Most people have only experienced this state at times of extreme beauty where everything seems to stand still for a moment.
Life will always suck if you are always wishing you were doing something else, just appreciate whatever it is that you are doing right now and give your full attention to it. Even if you are washing the dishes!
4. Learn to Give
Try and be a selfless person. Give and do not seek anything in return. Most of us go through our life with the attitude of what’s in it for me? We have been conditioned from a young age to look out for ourselves, if we don’t, we will not succeed in this world. This attitude could not be more wrong.
Remember the last time you gave a gift to someone that they were really grateful for. I can bet that you felt happy because they felt happy. You saw the wide eyed grin on their face and this triggered something positive inside you. You were able to positively affect someone’s well being and it felt great.
So next time you see someone standing outside on the street raising money for charity, drop a couple of coins into their bucket, it might just bring a smile to your face.
Giving doesn’t only have to involve money though, give a compliment to your friend, relative, loved one or even a complete stranger and I guarantee that they will appreciate it and you will feel happy because of it.