“Life is difficult,” were the first words in the first chapter of “The Road Less Traveled” by M. Scott Peck.
I would have preferred Peck wrote “Life is a challenge,” because the word, ‘difficult,’ sets up a mind-set that implies it could be insurmountable. However, the word, ‘challenge,’ stirs our motivation to a greater height and ‘challenges’ us to succeed.
Peck then explains that once we accept that, “Life is difficult,” i.e. life is a challenge, it becomes easier because we are not operating under false pretenses. No one who arrives on this earth plane arrives with all their ducks in a row-so to speak. Live is challenging for everyone. We are all challenged, but in different ways for different reasons.
One of the challenges in life is learning not to take things to heart and hold on to it. Sometimes it might seem that the world is against you. Yet, the Law of Abundance and Law of Attraction (The Secret) proves this to be incorrect.
We are especially challenged in our early years, or if we are sensitive to the reactions of others. This can be overwhelming and unproductive if it throws us off balance frequently. When we feel criticized or attacked from many directions, it becomes more challenging to recover so that we can continue to speak and act in our authentic truth. When this is the case, it is important to remember the old adage, ‘Let it roll off your back like water off a duck’s back.’
Often times, the attacks and criticisms of others have more to do with them and how they are feeling than with you. If you get caught up in working to adjust yourself to other people’s negative habits, you lose touch with your core. You can turn the attacks and criticisms into a positive light effect, because it offers you the opportunity to strengthen your core sense of yourself. It also gives you the opportunity to deflect and let go of any negativity thrown your way. The more you practice deflecting and letting go, the more you will be able to discern what belongs to you and what belongs to other people. With practice, you become a master of your energetic integrity, refusing to serve as a target for the disowned anger and frustration of those around you.
Subsequently, you will be able to hear the feedback (albeit was presented as criticism) that others give, taking in anything that might be helpful and releasing that which has nothing to do with you. First, however, you need to attend to yourself compassionately by recognizing when you can take something in from the outside to avoid allowing yourself to be hurt. If you are not prepared to be open to their feedback-also known as criticism, shake it off and let it roll off your back as you continue on your earthly journey.